We are drilled from childhood about what love should “feel” like, through
fairytale, and later movies and novels. When we describe the moment we
fall in love with someone we use expressions like having butterflies,
feeling our heart skip a beat, feeling like the whole world just vanishes
away…

I am not discounting these feelings, when we meet someone we both like and
are attracted to we do feel very real sensations in our bodies but I do
believe we need to keep things in perspective.

Those swooning feelings are not love and it would serve us well to
remember this when we are dating.  I suggest repeating these simple
phrases when one feels themselves in the throws of new “love” (preferably
not out loud in the presence of the object of our desire ;)

Repeat after me:
- it’s not love it’s lust
- it’s not love it’s infatuation
- it’s not love it’s desire
etc…

You’ll soon find that when you can properly identify what is happening to
you and not just lump it all together and call it love then it’s much
easier to stay level headed and really have a clear picture of who we are
getting involved with…

Take care

~M